This article was originally published on Goldleaf, and appears here with permission.
“I write about cannabis and sex because that’s what I like. It’s the truth.” – Sophie Saint Thomas
Goldleaf is proud to announce the release of The Intimacy Journal.
The Intimacy Journal is the result of our collaboration with the wellness experts at Foria and Sophie Saint Thomas, author of the forthcoming Sex Witch: Magickal Spells for Love, Lust, and Self-Protection and contributor at VICE, Playboy, High Times, Cosmopolitan, GQ, and many other notable publications.
We recently had the opportunity to chat with Sophie about her thoughts on cannabis’ interplay with a smorgasbord of topics related to sex, kink, BDSM, gender, and the occult. She shared her perspectives on these topics and the typical results and associations that usually come about when pairing cannabis with sex.
Of course, your mileage may vary. A key point Sophie emphasized was that experiences with sex on cannabis differ from person to person, and even from sexual encounter to sexual encounter.
Equal But Different
“There’s evidence that estrogen gets you higher and testosterone does the opposite.”
This sex-based difference in response to cannabis often leads to a mismatch in how high partners will feel when including cannabis in their lovelife.
That said, other factors (e.g. a person’s weight, frequency of past cannabis use, unique biochemistry, etc.) also play major roles in how someone will feel when using cannabis during sex. These considerations often necessitate that lovers take different doses of cannabis before heading to the bedroom (or the woods, on a billiards table, or wherever the mood may strike).
Sophie related that, from her own experience, she has found that men and women tend to prefer different varieties of cannabis.
“The industry is moving away from the indica and sativa model in terms of a more accurate and detailed response, but I hear a lot of women wanting to use indicas, indicating they would want a more calming experience. With men, it seems to be they want a more energetic experience from sativas.
Some men, Sophie continued, shy away from using cannabis at all in their sex lives.
“There are a lot of dominant men who find that cannabis lowers their aggression and they just want to lie around and be cuddly, which is cool, but it can be frustrating if you took it for something else and then have that experience.”
Methods of Administration
Most of us have a favorite way to consume cannabis. Some love the overwhelming power of dabs. Others appreciate the convenience and purity of vaping. Experienced cannabis connoisseurs may enjoy the tried and true comfort of smoking joints. Those of us in college (or who wish we were) may prefer gravity bongs made from bottles of pop.
Is there a specific method of consumption that outshines all the others when mixing cannabis with sex?
“I would say it really depends on what a person wants and is looking for. They’re all very different methods. A dab is going to hit you really quickly within a second of taking it and it’s going to be really intense, but you probably won’t be feeling it much by the time you’re done having sex. Whereas if you take an edible, it’s going to be a slow crawl and you might not even feel the high until two hours later and it isn’t going to be completely gone for around six hours, so that’s going to give you a really different experience. One thing a person may want to do to decide is ask themselves whether they want a body high and an alteration of the senses, like from edibles, or a more cerebral effect, like from inhalation.”
If you’re unsure of which method of administration would work best, experiment and use The Intimacy Journal to discover your preference/s.
Cannabis and Sexual Challenges
While sex feels incredible (when enjoyed with compatible partners), some of us may not be able to fully appreciate our amorous experiences because of a variety of medical conditions.
Cannabis has been proven to be effective as part of a patient’s health regimen for a whole range of health concerns—from cancer to diabetes to glaucoma and many other medical challenges. Can it also assist with sexual-related issues?
The answer depends on both the condition and the person.
Regarding vaginal dryness: “I wrote a very controversial article a while ago about ‘cotton vagina’ for VICE. This article was an interview with a very respected doctor. We talked about how cannabis dries, like dry mouth, but it’s not just the mucous membranes in your mouth, it’s everywhere. Again, it’s a controversial take, no one has a study on how cannabis affects a vagina’s ability to become wet. That being said, cannabis is really good for menopausal women and women who experience vaginal dryness for other reasons, especially when they use suppositories. Smoking or consuming weed in other ways probably would not have the same effect, although for some people it will. A suppository can produce wetness and make someone with vaginal dryness more comfortable during sex because not only is there actual oil in the product you’re putting in you, but it’s also going to increase blood flow and reduce pain, so I would say it’s the way to go.”
For women and people with vulvas who have trouble achieving orgasm, Sophie shared that: “It’s known that cannabis enhances physical sensation for everyone, so it can heighten sensation and that can help you achieve orgasm. First, we have to remember the sex educator mantra that the biggest sexual organ is the brain. So if you’re anxious, if you’re worried, if you have sexual trauma and a little bit of PTSD, if you’re stuck in your head and you can’t focus on the moment, you’re not going to be able to come. Maybe if you bring out the Hitachi and put it to the top setting, but that’s about it. So cannabis, by relaxing your mind, can make it easier to come; and it is a vasodilator, meaning that it increases …